According to her, her daughter, Emerald will not make the same mistakes she made by being put in the family way outside wedlock.
She said,
“I don’t want her to make the same mistakes I made. I feel like some of the decisions I made was because I was raised differently.
Our parents taught us what they knew as the truth, but what you know as the truth might not be the truth. Another thing is that parents do not tell their children why certain behaviors should be avoided.
For example, parents say, “don’t drink because I said so” not, “don’t drink because it is bad for your health”; but I’m learning that for the children of this age, you have to tell them all the reasons why they should not do certain things.
While my daughter was growing up, I took up the reward method; you do good, you get good. There was a consequence for every action.”
Waje, whose daughter recently turned 17 continued, “There were many times I really prayed that The One will quicken his steps to make things easier. It did get too much when it is time to pay rent, school fees, and other miscellaneous expenses.
And the blessing outweighs the challenges. I have learnt to be patient, more accommodating and to pay attention to details as a mom. I have also learnt to map out my priorities, because there are some things I simply cannot do as a mom.”
Also talking about her baby daddy, she added, “I was young. He was young. Our relationship now is very cordial. We respect each other. He has not always been a part of my daughter’s life until recently.
He met her last year. When she was quite young he showed interest but my fear was that he won’t be consistent. I didn’t want a situation where he would come in this year and leave the next.
So I had to wait till I was sure that he would be there.”
