Nollywood star John Ikechukwu Okafor, widely known as Mr Ibu has narrated how he was a careless father when he started the journey of a fatherhood.
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The movie star while narrating his experience, revealed how his two wives left him because he was not financially buoyant as a husband.
Ibu explains that he retraced his steps on the long run, so as to be able to take good care of his children.
The Nollywood actor also shed light on the beauty of becoming a responsible father and how he realized the need to provide for his family.
Today, Mr Ibu is one of the richest Nollywood Actors, with mouthwatering networth. He is also a comedian who understands how to put smile on people’s face.
In his words as captured by glamsquad,
When you are young and single it is a big difference from being a married man, and a bigger difference when you start to have children. When you have babies, you are becoming a man, and when you are becoming a man, you are thinking big. There were certain things I wouldn’t do that I do now, because I am the head of my family and family comes first. Also, my children look up to me, learn from me and emulate me.
I have to show them that I am responsible, so that they can be proud of who I am. God says you should nurture them, provide for them and that is what I do. Fatherhood makes you a responsible person. We have fathers who are responsible and there are others who are irresponsible and careless.
When I started my journey into fatherhood, I was a careless father, but by God’s grace I was able to retrace my steps, build up myself and today I am proudly a responsible father. If you are a careless father, who doesn’t care for his children, who doesn’t have love for his and family, who doesn’t have love and passion for building a home, such a person is not a man. I have been able to live up to my responsibilities as a father by providing for my family and making sure they never lack.
You have to build confidence in yourself. You learn everyday as a father, and I never miss any opportunity to learn everyday and this makes me a better parent.
I have people who learn from me and I teach them how to build a home even though I had some ups and downs in the course of trying to build a home. My first and second marriages failed; they (my wives) left me after having a child each for me.
I wondered what made them make such decisions and they made me know that it was because I didn’t have money. This made me know that I have to be able to keep my family and provide for them and make sure that they are satisfied and not have any reason to look down on me