Media personality, Toke Makinwa has revealed that she regrets spending her 20s focused on a single relationship, expressing her dislike for that period of her life.
Toke, 40, shared these reflections while looking back on her youthful devotion and the lessons she’s learned over time.
Speaking on Cocktails and Takeaways, the media personality advised young people against marrying in their early to mid-twenties, drawing from her own personal experience. In her words:
“I don’t think I liked my twenties. I don’t think I knew what I was doing because I was in love with one man in my 20s. I spent my entire 20s following one man.
“If I could turn back the hand of time, I’m grateful that I’m where I am today because my experience has shaped me.
“But I tell young people that you have no business getting married in your early or mid-twenties. Figure yourself out. Know yourself first.”
In other news, Toke Makinwa has opened up about her desire to get married again.
Glamsquad recalls that Toke was previously married to fitness enthusiast, Maje Ayida in 2014, however their union ended in 2017 amid publicized controversies
In a recent podcast interview with with British-Nigerian host, Madame Joyce, the 40-year-old described marriage as a “beautiful institution” despite its challenges
Toke reflected on her past experiences and shared her optimism about finding love again. She said “Marriage is not easy, but when done with the right person, it’s one of the most beautiful things.”
On her intention to give marriage a chance again, Toke said
“People always think I hate men or a feminist who bashes men. I have been married before and marriage is one of the most beautiful institutions.
“I see marriage like the relationship between siblings. If your siblings come to visit, the first couple of days are exciting. You guys wear matching pyjamas, sleep in the same bed, and catch up on all the lost years or lost moments. By the third day, it’s like, ‘Close my f*cking door. Who wore my shoes? Where are my earrings? Please, when are you going back to your house? Please, I am tired.’ And that was how I saw it.
“There were days when I would rush home to tell my ex-husband everything I had been through. And there were days when I woke up in the morning, I said, ‘God, you must hate me for me to marry this idiot. This is not life; this must be hell.’ That was how I saw it. And it didn’t work out many years ago. But I still fancy the institution. I do want to get married again.
“It hasn’t happened yet. I’m not ruling it out. I am just taking my time. Maybe it’s not God’s time yet. Whenever he is ready, I just hope I am not wrinkled [laughs].”
Toke debunks marriage to Farouk Umar
Toke addressed the rumour which made rounds during her thanksgiving that she tied the knot with her bestfriend and long-rumoured partner, Farouk Umar.
She dismissed the reports, clarifying that the event many mistook for a wedding was actually a Thanksgiving celebration.
“Farouk is my bestie,” she emphasized, adding that they share a close but platonic relationship.
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