Nigerian singer, Ikuforiji Olaitan Abdulrahman better known as Oxlade has shared a candid look into his past experiences with love and heartbreak, opening up about the emotional scars that have shaped his perspective to view love as often overrated.
Appearing on The 90’s Baby Show, Oxlade shared a personal story about a past relationship that deeply shaped his views on love.
When asked about the source of his heartbreak, Oxlade declined to name his ex-girlfriend, citing fears of negative publicity and potential backlash from social media users.
Oxlade recalled a moment when his then-girlfriend’s friends questioned her choice to date him, judging solely based on his financial status at the time. He revealed that this experience deeply affected him and permanently changed his perception of love.
The host asked, “Who broke your heart? What did she do to you?”
Oxlade, hesitant to name-drop his ex-lover, simply replied, “A thing.”
“I feel like you don’t do evil for evil, that’s giving her bad PR. I can’t expose her, my community will. Trust me, there are stalkers that go crazy; they will find you. I promise you, it’s the internet”
When asked about what happened between him and his ex, and why he now views love as overrated, the singer responded:
“It’s not what she did to me, but what the community did to us. Back then, I didn’t even have the bread so it was all true love. Just true love and words of affirmation. There was this time when I was in her hostel and I heard her friends ask her, ‘Girl, what are you doing with Oxlade.
“I was at the door and when I entered, their demeanour changed. That thing broke me and from then on I saw the patterns change until I saw her with the same guy she said she wasn’t seeing.
“This was at a very early stage in my life, during my hustle era. That was the moment I learned that love is sweet o, but it’s not everywhere. You can’t find true love everywhere and you must be lucky, God wants you to see love before you can find it”.
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