Relationship Talks: The Fear of being alone

The biggest problem most ladies face is the fear or being alone. The fear of being called single. A lady of 29 yrs, that’s single and without a man it’s not funny for her oo .
She will rather be in a relationship and even if she knows deep down the man isn’t right for her she stays back just so if her friends that are married ask her “So babes,what’s up? when we go wear asoebi? She be like “it James my dear, just waiting for when he will pop the question”
They can’t imagine themselves alone. So they develop the fear of being alone. Then they begin to call their ex to see if they can get back or they just date the first man that comes their way
Sometimes, you hear women say ” if he doesn’t have money self, I will just do our wedding abeg, so I can just be married”
Which do u prefer..
Alone, single and without a man. Hoping for one(through prayers)?
Or married but still lonely, because you married the wrong guy and u just have to live with your mistake?
Babes, the fact that you alone doesn’t mean your man won’t come. Like I have advised in my previous post, use your time as a single lady and work on yourself, try and work on all those things people complain about u, so you don’t carry them into marriage.
That’s why most people get separated just after a short while of being married. It’s not that he beat her oo or he was cheating. It was simply because they were both lonely even as they were married. They don’t share a common interest, nothing to talk about, or laugh about. So they both get home, then retire to their rooms pressing their phone. Then, he start spending late nights with his friends to chat and laugh and she on the other side hopes to be pregnant so she has something to distract her and take her time.
I know of a lady who got married at 40. This lady resumes work as early as 7am, closes by 7pm so she can get home very late and that’s to tell you she is lonely even in marriage.
Please ladies,don’t let the fear of being alone as a single lady make u marry the wrong man.
There is nothing wrong with being alone but something wrong with being lonely.
Know the difference.
Sebastiane Ebatamehi

I am a Writer and Online Publicist, destined to give a voice to the silent echoes and hush whispers that are seldom heard

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